Creating the life you love. When you hear me say that, or say it to yourself, you might experience a guttural reaction where more than few thoughts pop into your head about how it's not possible, and there's just too much in the way. What we then resign ourselves to doing is looking at those that we admire that are living the life or have something that we want, and we try and figure out how they do it. We think that obviously they have it all together, and because of that, they are so happy, content, calm, peaceful, joyful...(insert positive adjective here). There's a secret here. Ok, not so much a secret. But there is something we fail to realize. No one has it all together. We all have chaos, stress, busy work, family and personal lives, with challenges that sideswipe us wherever we go.
So you're now probably asking, if they have the same chaos that I do, how can they possibly be so happy and content?
Because they have found the one thing that makes the chaos bearable, tolerable, and really in their eyes, beautiful. They found themselves, and pushed themselves to be living their life's purpose. They live in all of those dreams they have, those heart-fluttering thoughts that we have all experienced, but a lot of us have had squashed by our own perceptions that the chaos and "practical reality" of our lives shapes what we can and cannot do.
Maybe some of you have had or have people in your lives that have told you to be realistic and that your dreams are just that: a picture or thought in your head. I think it's fair to say that the people that say that to us have never had someone telling them to go out and achieve their dreams. But you do!
I'm here to tell you that it is all possible, and it starts with identifying and saying out loud what it is you truly want for your life.
What do you want for you? For your family, your community, and everything that you touch in your life. That dream might not have something concrete in it just yet, or be some grand master plan, but before you can run you need to walk. Your first baby step is to set an intention of what you want to bring in to your life, and as that intention grows in your mind and your heart, those things that you dream of will begin to materialize in ways that you could never imagine.
So what do you want? Sometimes there is not an answer that is readily available to us. Sometimes we just know the answer in terms of what we don't want. It is important that you take that answer of what you don't want, and flip around in a way to state what it is that you DO want. To do this you will have to ask some questions and have conversations with yourself that you don't normally have, digging really deep down for the answers.
So try it today. Set that intention. Instead of looking at the people you admire and wishing you could have what they have, take that brainpower and set it toward how you want to create that life your yourself. Even if your intention is to figure out how to bring that happiness and contentment to your life, that one step is better than standing still in a life you're not completely sold on. It's one step closer to creating the life you love.