What a week last week! I was in London for a 2-day event celebrating the end of a program that I have been a part of for the last 1.5 years. I knew it was going to be an incredible experience, but that ended up being an understatement.
It was hosted at The Ritz in London, which was the perfect setting of beauty and possibilities for the amazing group of women that were there. On Day 1, I was invited to be a part of a panel and presented on my journey the last 1.5 years, and I had the opportunity to share 5 mindset tips and shifts that have been life changing for me.
If you haven't had a chance to watch the Facebook Live I did sharing these 5 tips, Watch It Here! Or keep reading for all the details :D (and go back and watch the video after for all the juicy parts).
So without further ado, here are my 5 Tips for Transforming Your Mindset.
Tip 1: Banish Judgement from your life
If you find yourself going down the road of judgement often (judging others AND yourself), it is time to kick this habit and response once and for all. Judgement closes off opportunity, positive energy, and really anything that is going to serve you adopting a mindset of success. My biggest lesson around releasing judgement of others was when I had an opportunity to work with my coach, Emily Williams, and the old me was tempted to judge her on all the ways that she was different than me. But I listened to my gut and invested in the opportunity to work with her because I knew there was so much I could learn from her.
And I'll let you in on a not-so-secret, secret--the sooner you let go of judging others, the sooner you can let go of the ways you judge yourself.
Tip 2: Recognize that you are not your thoughts
ESPECIALLY the negative ones. You know the easiest way to know you are not your thoughts? You actually can feel the negativity from that inner voice and self-talk that chirps at you and brings you down. That means there is a part of you who can acknowledge that voice as negative and bringing you down. The one who can notice that voice is that true version of you--you know the one. The one with all the dreams, desires, passions. The one who wants to experience something greater than what you're experiencing right now. You are not your thoughts--you are the beautiful being that wants more than the negative repeat going on in your head.
Tip 3: Surround yourself with Love, Compassion, and Gratitude
So this means if you have people in your life that are not contributing to love, compassion and gratitude in your life, maybe you need to create some boundaries? We are creatures of habit--especially with our family and friends. But if there are some big changes that you want to make in your life, it may require some big changes in your relationships and how you engage in them. I'm not saying cut people out of your life (but I am saying that if you have truly toxic people around you)--I am saying maybe you only engage in the relationships and activities that serve you, and limit the others that you know won't.
It goes without saying then that you should surround yourself MORE with people that support you, and feed that love and gratitude in your life.
And lastly--and most importantly--adopt a routine of self-care that includes all of these things! Self-love, self-compassion, and a big dose of being grateful every single day. Engage in the activities that light you up (any creatives out there? Get painting/playing/singing/dancing/baking/sewing/etc.), give yourself white space in your day to relax, meditate (<--this is key), journal. Take care of you. AND include a daily gratitude practice of just writing down 1-3 things you are grateful for from your day. This is just until it becomes something you walk around doing all day every day.
Tip 4: Pay attention to repetitive blocks and setbacks
When life gets you down, and you feel like saying "not this again!", take that as your cue that there is maybe some really big opportunity to change your life. In our problems and our pain lie some pretty incredible a-ha's and learnings. The bigger the block, the bigger the shift! My biggest came when I was going to be a single Mom--which is not a situation that most women are excited about going into--because in my case there was a ton of heartache that went along with it. Most of which was caused by my own self-loathing and lack of self-love. But boy oh boy was there a lesson in there for me! And a blessing (Or a Blesson as I like to call it).
Everything that is happening to you is happening for you to evolve into the person you are meant to be.
Tip 5: Release and let it go
About those blocks and setbacks--you have to fully embrace them and let them go. Sometimes we make mistakes, sometimes things happen to us that suck, but if we make ourselves wrong or wish things would have happened differently we are hanging on to the energy of those blocks and setbacks. You need to extend forgiveness to yourself for whatever perceived mistakes, wrongdoings, shame, or guilt you hold on to, and you also need to extend forgiveness to yourself for wanting things to be different and playing the "if only" game.
This is a big one--because it may require you to dig up the old pain, shame and feelings that you've pushed down from the big setbacks and sad moments in your life. But on the other side of that pain is the life you are meant to be living.
So what do you think? Are there some shifts and changes you are looking to make to really start feeling like you are actively participating in and engaged in your life? I'd love to hear what you think! Send me a message with your thoughts, a-ha's or ANYTHING!
Wishing you all sorts of transformation, this transformation Tuesday!