So it's Monday. And I'm looking at my week thinking about all the things I need to get done at home. It seems with a new baby (but she's not so new anymore) I think excessively about all the ways one needs to care about these ever-changing, freakishly fast growing little humans. I've already cleaned out her dresser and closet 3 times, for goodness sake!
Our new phase we've entered into is eating solids. Easy enough, right? Nope! I found a new trigger in my life for mom guilt, and a way that I can make a mountain out of a mole hill.
I've been at this self-awareness piece for awhile. I've recorded my thoughts, I've practiced self-care, self-compassion and genuine acceptance and self-love for who I am, but I STILL get snagged on little thoughts that creep into my head.
Back to today--I'm checking out all the different ways I can feed my child solids, the baby-led weaning, puree recipes, the "yes" food list, the "no" food list, when all of a sudden a feeling washes over me that says something like this...
"You're bad at making baby food."
Now--before I was aware of how these thoughts govern and control my life, I probably would have believed this voice in my head to be the truth. I would have went down the rabbit hole of "I Suck"-ness, and told myself how challenging it is having a baby, and how she'll surely starve to death or fail to thrive, or at best, be a terribly picky eater.
But thankful for all my self-reflection time, my mind perked up.
"I'm sorry--what was that? Oh hell no! Not this time!"
How many times have you had a self-sabotaging, negative, hurdle-creating thought enter your head about something "new"? Or how often do you have those thoughts about something that's been a part of your life for as long as you can remember?
You don't have to accept the thoughts, negativity and "reality" of life as what it is--because it's not reality. You have something better inside of you, full of limitless possibilities, waiting to be activated.
And this activation starts with something as simple as observing your thoughts.
You are not your thoughts.
Let that sink in for a second.
You are not your thoughts.
If you're feeling crummy, overwhelmed or even just indifferent in your life, take a look at what thoughts are coming into your head every day, and ask yourself "Is this serving me? Am I going to feel better, be better, and do better by listening to and believing this?".
Once you start to notice the thoughts that creep into your life that aren't serving you, start flipping them around. What would be the awesome opposite of this thought? The thought that would build me up and energize me?
Then focus on that.
What you focus on expands. If you lead your thoughts, you can lead your life to one better than you've ever imagined or hoped for.