I just got off a call with my coach, and he said something that I'm sure he's said dozens of times before, but today it really resonated with me, like I was "ready" to hear it. Have you ever had a moment like that?
So the idea goes like this. You probably have goals and dreams, aspirations and a bucket list of items you want to do. And sometimes it might feel like "Well when that happens THEN I will finally feel free, happy, beautiful, joyful, peaceful, and have everything I ever wanted, and life will be easy, footloose and fancy free."
The perfect outcome of when we have this, or do that, or achieve that milestone---where we then never have to worry ever again because we have everything we want. Well I hate to break it to you---it doesn't exist.
"There" doesn't exist.
How many times have you said "when I have ________ (a new job/more money/kids/a vacation/my own business/etc) I will be more ___________ (happy/content/fulfilled/etc)"?
Odds are, you will get "there" and it won't feel like you imagined. So you will think you must have been wrong, and will focus on that next thing that will make you feel how you want to feel.
"There" is just our mind busying us with thoughts about what it is we desire in our life, and something we measure ourselves against from where we are now. Usually what happens when we start measuring is that voice (You know the one) telling us WHY we don't measure up, based on all the things that have happened to us before.
When we're focused on "there", we worry about the future, get anxious about the past, and forget about right here.
Where you are right now is part of your journey. When you stay present in where you are, you begin to notice that you have a choice. You can CHOOSE to feel the things you want to feel, and that you don't have to wait for something to happen in order for you to have those feelings.
What if you were to choose how you felt? What would you choose? How do you want to feel? What would that feel like?
The more we focus on the answer to those questions, the easier it is for all of our desires and dreams to effortlessly happen for us.