We’ve all been given a lecture about “making good choices” at some point in our lives. It may have came in the way of a conversation from our concerned parents to our teenage self. Or perhaps a teacher or boss who had some higher expectations for us than we did for ourselves. During our younger years there wasn’t much to weigh when it came to making choices besides how we felt about them. But as we get older, we realize how important our choices are. We figure out that "living in the moment" is all fine and good, as long as that moment includes choices that aren't, well, poor. I think it's fair to say that sometimes us humans, even in our older and wiser years, still don't make the best choices. In the super connected world we've been living in over the last decade, we get to see other’s choices every single day: their choice of words, choice of consumption, but mostly their choice of how they spend their time and how they feel about it (for the avid snapchatters out there). All of this connection can give us a pretty good idea about who people are. We are more accountable, more aware, (or at least we should be) of what our choices say about us.
We are our choices. But it is the poor choices that take up so much of our time, energy, emotions with the consequences of poor choices spreading to all the other areas of our lives: how we perform in our job and at home, how we interact with our spouse, kids, family, coworkers. Everyone. Poor choices and the resulting consequences can intertwine into our lives and amplify any negativity or challenging situation that is lurking.
But do you know what the best thing is about poor choices? There’s still a choice. We can decide, and choose, to make a new starting point. A point from which we can make the choices that will lead our life in a direction and a way that will truly serve us, and then ultimately serve others. Sure, the consequences of previous choices might still be lurking around, but with every step forward—every good choice—we are leading our way to that life and that person we are meant to be.
But there’s so much to choose from? How do we choose?
Those choices that lead us on our path to a life that brings us the most joy, happiness and purpose are almost the easiest choices to make, because they are entirely personal. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks about us and what we choose. It only matters that we are doing what is important to ourselves. That we make ourselves proud.
What is important to you? What do you want more of, and why do you want more of it? What do you value in your life?
When we can answer those questions to ourselves, it is much easier to set an intention of what we want our life to be. And when you set that intention, it’s so much easier to make those choices that keep you moving forward, leading your way to creating a life you love.